Some people think that they can protect the alcoholic from him/herself while others think that they can tell what the alcoholic will do next, always with good intentions.
There are a number of wise Proverbs among alcoholics who are in various stages of recovery. Some of these sayings are literal while others are supposed to make you think. "The insanity of our disease" is how Alcoholics Anonymous calls it. This declaration is very accurate. I can speak with you about comprehending the active alcoholic, however I can't make it have a meaning to you since comprehending the active alcoholic needs to be stripping away many sensible thought, the acceptance and enthusiasm to learn from errors, the capacity to identify understandable patterns of behavior, and very frequently, the use of common sense.
There are around a hundred types of alcoholism. The conscious alcohol user, who is completely active, and has never experienced grievous loss, is the person I am referring to here. Addiction is a disease which will ensure that they will lose the things closest to them with the passage of time, and the rule of threes will dictate a long-term prognosis which will be grim [jail, institution and/or death]. The beliefs, actions and feelings of addicts are based on a warped system of thinking about themselves and their environment.
They live at the very great of all or nothing. There is no mildness, no central view point, no agreement, and no right and wrong for their way of thinking. In many cases, alcoholics live in denial of their destructive habits [self and others] and this habit among them further distorts the things that they are able to make sense of.
Because of their ability to convince themselves that lies are truths by justifying and rationalizing everything, you will discover the biggest liars among addicts. This takes at a subconscious level.
Most of the time, they are unaware that they are actually lying to themselves.
Alcoholics use some expressions that makes easy lying in a way that sounds like it's true. "Possibly" is the word they prefer. It indicates the purpose that truly isn't there. An alcohol addict that says he will most likely act in certain manner will in most case not do it. Words such as these provide an escape for an alcoholic since they don't get to make any promises and also avoid giving a straightforward answer. The alcoholic loves words and sentences such as probably, perhaps, might, can, must, I'd love to, I wish to, I should do. In reality, all these words and phrases are of no significance. The words sound good, but in most cases lead to a disappointment. Alcoholism ruins everything from relations, communication and everything that makes up the alcoholic's life.
The perception of an alcoholic can be compared to that of a horse with blinders such that it has no peripheral vision. Although they may be able to work on various things on a given day, working on any one thing will require that they turn their attention away from other things.
Multitasking for the person addicted to alcohol determine a lot of disorder at once. An active alcoholic has no equilibrium. When one area throughout their lives begins to decline they will often begin to focus their attention on the decline and take it to the extreme. As this occurs, every step they take is connected to the most serious issues making their existence a sort of "firehouse management" because another aspect of their life fails. Even though some addicts maintain it for a long period, this is an unavoidably downward spiral.
Alcoholics will at some point start hiding how much or how often they drink as their daily intake starts to increase. They may tell you a half truth such as drinking only three glasses of wine on a given day. However, they would not have told you that every class of wine they had was a 16-ounce tumbler. The negative consequence alcohol causes in their existence is also concealed together with their drinking. "An external locus of control" is the term used by experts to describe this. This means that for everything that goes wrong, there's someone else to blame. Their response is to blame their superiors if they are not doing well at work. They see the problem in their marriage as a result of their partner's irrationality. Whenever they don't succeed as parents, they will see as it's their kids's fault for being selfish.
So any reason and everyone is a cause to drink.The problematic alcoholic will frequently mention that they don't even wish to drink, however the situations of dealing with an unpleasant job/spouse/children "obligate" them to drink.
The sense of entitlement expressed by alcoholics is often the weird type. The reasoning they provide for this belief is things like a difficult life, too much stress and numerous demands, which give them the entitlement to choose actions that are immature, irresponsible and selfish. Everything has to pay them back for something according to their attitude. The feeling that life has not been fair to them, and that of self-pity, are some of the attributes of active alcoholics. Their expectations from themselves become lesser and that from the world becomes higher.
The quickest route adopted by alcoholics who can cause self-destruction are the words "screw it." This is the moment they'll decide to drink since everything is already beyond fixing to them. When alcoholics give up the drink we make them observe that "It" really is "Me". This is evident in "it's not worth it." The alcoholics make conscious efforts to deny the facts, even when they are aware of them all. They won't just want to deny their condition on their own but will also want those around them to deny it themselves. Everything increasingly turns into exteriority and less into practicality. This has been explained adequately in pink's song "family portrait." "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal.'
Though the alcoholics may not have been in the act of swindling people before, they develop the skills to con people with time. These are the people who can sell ice to Eskimos. They will have an argument with you as they wish to leave and they will make you believe it's your mistake. The skill of accountability is completely lost in them. Before developing their habit with alcoholism they may have had the integrity, but it will be conspicuously absent from their lives as their habit progresses. Every alcoholic tends to have exemptions to this rule - they will get their self-confidence from something they are really good at. We have contacts with numerous alcoholics who have incredible work ethics because being a good worker is one thing they know they are good at - well, they will say that and begin drinking.
The disease of alcoholism will gradually strip everything away from the individual We have been questioned in so many occasions if alcoholism is a sickness or a decision. The fact is that it is both. Alcoholism is as special as any ailment, because it is invisible to others and also makes the victims not to believe its presence. Even when afflicted with this disease, there is an aspect of choice that is not there in other diseases. The alcohol addict may face remission at any period and many do. It has often been observed that alcoholics will abstain from the substance for some time in order to prove to themselves, and the others that they are not addicted but will return with a vengeance at a later date.
Recovery from alcohol addiction includes much more than sobriety. Every part of an individual's life will undergo a change when he or she is looking forward to recovering from alcoholism. The one who just stops consuming alcohol is what we mention as a "dry drunk" indicating that they are each bit as unhealthy, they have just quit drinking - a little percentage of population maintain this long period. True long-term recovery is only possible through programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous according to many professionals. There are innumerable positive things that may be additional to the plan of AA and their significance can't be exaggerated. Help from relatives and pals are what people in therapy need. I unfortunately deal with pals and relatives who innocently are on the side of the alcoholic (by shielding an alcoholic from the effects of their behaviour) and this keeps that person bond with booze.